Many of us have experienced firsthand, or heard people talk about how technology is interfering in their relationship. The term technoference was even coined to put a name to this problem. The constant connection to our smart phones & tablets can be problematic if people allow it to be. I’m sure that none of you have done this, but we have all heard stories about how someone was texting constantly during a date and ignoring the person they were with. Others check email during dinner or scan Facebook for the latest posts while oblivious to their partner’s irritation. These scenarios are clearly problematic, but let’s not blame the technology.
All of our devices make our lives easier and more convenient. If you are anything like me, you can’t even imagine a life without your iPhone. Just like anything else, it’s how you use it that determines whether it is adding or taking away from your life and personal relationships. Many experts advise that we disconnect from our devices regularly for the sake of our sanity and relationships. That has its merit, but what if, instead of resisting the current techno culture, we try to incorporate our technology into improving our health, happiness, and relationships? We can embrace the convenience and opportunities that our technology provides, and make conscious positive choices in our usage. That is exactly what I am attempting to help people do!
Want to improve your relationship? Now there’s an app for that!
There are apps to help us relax like Headspace and Calm. There are apps to help us keep track of important dates and events. There are apps to help us find a date. There are even apps that can give you real time access to a therapist. Now, there’s Idealationship! An app specifically designed to help people discover what they want from their relationship, how to communicate those wants, and provide interactive exercises for couples to do which can improve their relationship. Idealationship allows people to incorporate their technology into self- improvement and prioritizing their relationship. How much better do you think your relationship would be if you were reminded daily to make your partner a priority? How different would your interactions be if you were given the tools to effectively communicate what you want/need to your partner? Try using your technology to bring you closer together rather than allowing it to become a barrier to your happiness.
Next time you see a couple sitting together, but looking at their phones rather than each other, you can’t assume their ignoring each other. Maybe they are actually building their Idealationship. Maybe they are actively working on improving their communication, or learning things about each other that will strengthen their relationship. Why not embrace the opportunities that technology presents to start building your best possible relationship today?
How have you used technology in your relationship? Tell us in the comments below.